Relationships Articles

Whether people like to admit this or not, no matter what your age, gender, ethnicity or sexuality if you’re single then you are surely looking to find that special someone. It is the hardest thing in the world but find the one person out there that can make you feel like the world makes sense and you have a real sense of purpose, is the most important thing in life. I could tell you that life without love is a life not led and all the other quotes ever written about love but really falling in love is as individual as we are and no one can tell you who will be your ideal match but it is true that all relationships have to start somewhere so here is a brief guide to preparing yourself for a special date.

These are the key points to follow:

If you are about to arrange a date then think about when you are planning it for. Make sure it doesn’t correspond with anything that will unsettle you like a previous relationships anniversary or a family members birthday, make sure you can wholeheartedly invest in the date and keep you focus there.

In the week before the date think about getting your hair trimmed and coloured to ensure your hair will look it’s best, even use a rescue treatment the day before to make it glossy, make sure you don’t have a complete restyle though, you do want to be recognised.

Have a look in your wardrobe, is there the perfect outfit in there just waiting to be worn or are you going to need a trip to the shops before your big date?

Give yourself enough time to get ready and make the effort, no-one will be impressed with someone who looks like they haven’t made an effort or who is late, so give yourself a good few hours.

Let your nerves work to your advantage, use that nervous energy to groom yourself properly looking at areas you may not always pay attention to such as cleaning finger and toenails. Look at unwanted hairs, just check your eyebrows, nose, ears and all over for unwanted hairs and get rid of them.

Really look at what you have picked to wear, does it reflect the occasion? Think about where you are going and make sure it will be appropriate. Always have on good underwear because you have to start with good underwear and work your way up ensuring all of your clothes are clean and flattering to your figure and size. If you’re not sure ask someone who you think would be honest with you and has good taste themselves. Make sure you smell nice, maybe buy a new scent just put a few sprays on so you don’t overpower an entire restaurant, so enough but not too much.

Look at yourself properly in a mirror before you leave and check in natural light too especially those wearing make-up or fake tan.

You can now go to your big date knowing you are physically prepared to have the night of your life and really connect with the person opposite you, rather than wondering if you look your best. This preparation will also help you to feel really confident and at peace with how you look physically leaving you free to fall in love with your date and have a wonderful time, so long as they have put the effort in too, and if you’re not having such a great time with your date you never know who else will see you looking fabulous.

Are you looking for the secret key to winning you husband back? Has he left or is he thinking about leaving or filing for a divorce? There are lots of techniques you can employ but the place to start is by changing what you have the most control over what is this one thing? Surprisingly it is yourself.

It can be tough to look in the mirror when the faults of your husband are so obvious. When you feel neglected, taken advantage of, or used the first thought to cross your mind is generally not “I wonder what part I play in this broker relationship?” Or “I wonder what he would change about me if he could?”

While these often are really hard questions to ask and sometime even harder to act upon remember that as you look in the mirror you are looking at the one area you have the most control over. You may not be able to control how he looks at other women, spends money, or when he comes home, but you have all the control in the world over the way you respond to him, the way you communicate, and the way you show respect. It really is all you can do in many cases and can be the number one key to winning back your husband.

Often times as one spouse changes for the better the other one will take notice and will often feel motivated to change as well. If suddenly they are met with kindness it can be increasingly difficult to respond with hostility. These simple things that you have control over can be the very things that he responds to and the very things that could be used to save your marriage.

There are a lot of little hints that your ex may want you back, and chances are you may have noticed a few telltale clues that he may still be interested…but how do you proceed from here?

First you need to confirm whether or not he’s really interested, or if you’re not sure you’ve read him correctly.  One of the clearest signs he’s still interested in having you in his life is how much he tries to contact you after the breakup.

A significant number of repeated positive attempts to contact you is a pretty good sign for you…it shows that you’re still on his mind and that he’s reaching out to keep you at least partially in his life.  It’s fairly possible that he’s realizing his mistake in breaking it off with you and coming to terms with how he feels about you.

However, you don’t need to go off half-cocked just because he’s sent you a few phone calls…you’ll need to play this pretty skillfully, as it’s a delicate matter and he may really NOT know what you mean to him even if it’s pretty obvious that he still wants you in his life.  Be wary about this, because being too forward and assuming that he’s fully interested and knows he is can easily backfire and drive him further away.

It’s very possible that his desire to get back with you is subconscious and that he doesn’t really know why he’s contacting you so much other than just that he wants to…so you’ll have to take into account that he may not be “perfectly primed” to reconcile and start over.

The Seduction Community teaches many ways to tell if a girl likes you. Here are just a few:

1. If she touches you. If she touches you unnecessarily then that probably means she’s interested in what you are saying and wants to hear more.

2. If she laughs at things you say. Even if there not very funny at all she still laughs. Weird eh? It’s because she fancies you.

3. She drops hints. If a girl says that she’s really drunk its normally because she wants you to kiss her. She brings it up so that she has an excuse to herself. “I was drunk, i wouldn’t normally act like that.” Another obvious hint is if she mentions that she has a boyfriend. She wouldn’t mention him unless she was trying to resist getting with you.

4. She buys you a drink or ditches her friends for you.

5. SHE’S STILL THERE

This is the main one. In the seduction community you learn that it doesn’t matter that much if a girl is head over heels with you straight away or not. Persistence is highly attractive. Even if she hates you straight off the bat you can still turn it round.

Also the shyest girls in the world might really, really, really like you but because their so shy they leave no obvious clues. They might act really nervous around you or even ignore you. They might not seem like their having fun at all but after wards they’ll text you “Had a really fun time tonight! Lets do it again soon!”

So the golden rule is, if she’s still there then assume she still likes you.

A couple of months ago my son decided to end his fifteen month relationship because he needed time to think things over and “find himself.” Less than a month later he came to me and said “I want her back so badly it hurts.”

I never thought there would be a problem as his ex girlfriend really fancied him - in fact my wife and I suspected that this was the one and they would likely end up getting married. He was pretty sure it was just a matter of letting her know how he felt and she would be happy to pick up where they had left off.

Well he was wrong! It seemed that the break up had made her reconsider and she now needed time to reflect and find herself.

My son was hurting. He wasn’t eating and he wasn’t sleeping too well. He had lost fifteen pounds and was quite frankly looking terrible.

His concentration was non existent and he told me his work and studies were suffering. Clearly this turn of events had shaken him.

To be honest we were all a bit surprised. But then maybe we were looking at this from one side only. You know the old “blood is thicker than water” routine?

None of us knew what she had been through or how she felt.

There she was having done nothing wrong and her boyfriend suddenly says he needs time to “find himself.” Well she has feelings too and I am pretty sure she would have started thinking about her part in it all. Trying to find out what she had done wrong.

Sure he was hurting and wanted her back badly but she had been hurt and was petrified of having to go through the same thing again. Here she was, maybe almost at the point of acceptance, when he waltzes back into her life and says “OK darling I see I’ve made a mistake, let’s get together again.“

Almost as if nothing had happened.

Naturally she was weary; she may even have resented his presumption that all would be fine. Was she really so desperate to have him back again? Is that the message she wanted him to receive? If so what would stop him doing it again… and again… and again?

She asked for time and space and he reacted totally differently. He was only thinking about his own pain and his own needs. He kept saying “I want her back so badly it hurts.” I must have heard him say that a hundred times. He was obsessed with the fact that he had blown it. He had lost the one person that really mattered in his life.

As a result he did the opposite of what she requested. He phoned her incessantly; he left messages everywhere and sent her e-mails. Flowers were sent every other day and once twice in one day! Nothing seemed to get her attention; in fact things got worse as she asked him to stop stalking her.

What was he to do? He had realised he had made a mistake, that she was the only one for him and now he was desperately close to never seeing her again.

But he wouldn’t listen to me or his mother. “How could we possibly understand? How could we know what he was going through? We didn’t know what she was like!”

Eventually through some strategic manipulation we managed to get him to understand the psychology of his and her behaviour, to put himself in her shoes, to think rationally - rather than emotionally - and to take the first steps in behaving like the sort of man she would want to spend time with.

It took a lot of effort and an enormous amount of will power for him to make the changes in his behaviour but once he saw the reasoning behind it all and realized it was the only chance he had of succeeding he adopted a strategy and he has stuck to it.

Last week we had lunch, him and me, and he gave me a progress report. They were seeing each other occasionally, dating like they used to when they first went out. Things were looking promising but there were no guarantees. He has put on a bit of weight and seems more alert. As we got up from lunch he said to me “Dad I love her so much. She is the only person I ever want to spend my life with.” And then he added “I want her back so badly it hurts.”

The Pro’s of online dating are the following:

1. The volume. You will have an enormous pool of individuals to choose from and the chances of someone interesting being in your area is definitely pretty good.

2. Getting in early. Since online dating is relatively new and very much still growing, if you get in now you’ll be alongside other individuals who are new to the game as well. Online dating will eventually become over done. Too many idiots will enter the scene and people will become very cautious and have their guard up.

But for now there are still easy going, everyday individuals willing to engage themselves fully in the online dating scene.

The Con’s:

1. The disadvantages of online dating is the inconsistencies you have to deal with. While it can be an advantage, the high volume can serve as a negative. Many profiles will be abandoned by individuals who signed up to the online dating site and have since left, having perhaps given up or more likely not following through.

2. So it may take some time to weed through abandoned accounts, and hence may become frustrating at times when you don’t get a response back from a member on an online dating site.

Very important:

While it may be easy to communicate online, you must be prepared to have your game down for real life interaction. Online dating should not only be spent meeting other people, but it should be spent researching and learning intimate dating skills and techniques so that you’ll be prepared for real life encounters. You should be practiced and prepared to impress your online date with real life intimate skills!

Here briefly, are the 5 reasons why its now a must to be using online dating:

1. Sitting in your favorite armchair at home while having a cup of tea or coffee, you could be browsing and communicating with many real hot people within minutes of turning on your computer. Compare this to late nights, standing at the bar trying to pluck up the courage to talk to someone you like. I know which I prefer to do, do you?

2. No more worries about out-right rejection. If you are not so confident about your abilities in getting the girl or guy of your dreams then on line dating is for you! There is no need to approach your desired partner either like a scared sheep or an over confident idiot who is on the verge of making a full of themselves. You may argue that you face rejection with on line dating too, but its so easy to move on to your next “target” that it just does not compare to the negatives of dating off line.

3. Confidence levels are higher with on line dating. If, like me, you have had your fair share of relationship break ups, it takes a while to rebuild confidence levels again. With dating on line confidence is much less of an issue. In fact if you so wish, you can use dating on line to build your confidence and then transfer this confidence to off line dating.

4. There is a HUGE amount of people searching on line for a date. Go to any popular dating website and you will be faced with a massive pool of potential dating partners. If you so wish, you could be dating a different one each week, providing you keep your diary updated!

5. Suitable potential dating partners are everywhere! Similar to point 4, there are so many people to choose from that the world literally becomes your oyster - you can date Asian, African, European, American, Christian, Muslim, Jewish, gay, lesbian - the list goes on and on.

The age old question of how to attract a woman is no longer a mystery. Well, maybe the golden trick is to attract any woman in the world, but you can certainly attract 98%. We discovered how to attract women through scientific discovery and a lot of trial and error in the dating world. Well, we’ve cracked the dating world wide open and I hope this article can shed a tiny bit of light on how to attract a woman.

Firstly, Confident people sometimes have unconfident body language and vice versa. If you hope to attract a woman you have to understand that one of the first things that will indicate whether you’re a potential suitor is how you carry yourself. Women naturally notice these things and often it’s the first test you need to pass.

To attract a woman you need to flip all the attraction switches. These are hardwired through evolution. Every woman is therefore attracted to a man who possesses the traits that will help her survival or give her a healthy child. The traits that you need to attract a woman can be a complex debate but for the sake of simplicity they are leadership, intelligence, confidence, and loyalty.

If you are sincere about improving your abilities to attract a woman then you’ll learn about these yourself. I’ll just tell you what’s most important once you learn them: demonstration.It doesn’t matter if you saved two dozen babies earlier that day, if you can’t demonstrate you are a leader and protector then all of your stories are just the bragging of a failure. If you want to demonstrate leadership then you make sure you are never needy or supplicate to her.

There is way too much knowledge to pass on here and I hope you realize that you can’t learn what you need by reading these articles. It may make you feel good but it doesn’t help you attract a woman naturally. To attract a woman naturally you have to understand the big picture. If you just want to attract a woman then you better be a good liar.

The power of this technique called “Gift of Missing You” is tremendous. Not much practice is needed to master this skill but this technique is able to amplify her attraction for your ENORMOUSLY. However, much discipline is needed to display this skill. So, if you are ready, let’s get the party started…

The gift of missing you basically means playing hard to get. Playing hard to get seems like a tool used by attractive women on men. When women play hard to get, the man would instantly become more vulnerable to a women’s bidding. The man would call her thousand times a day and saying unnecessary mushy things and buying her tons and tons of gifts. Eventually, the woman feels no attraction at all and rejected the man. I have been through this stage and I believe many of you been through this too.

I understand your agony and anger and now its PAY BACK time! It’s your TURN to play hard to get and get her to be obsessed with YOU! First of all, before you even embark on playing hard to get, you need to first get a life. If you think that you are leading a boring life, do something about it. Find yourself some activities and keep yourself real busy and occupied. At the same time, leave some time for your dates. When you have a life and really enjoyed it, women can instantly tell and wants your attention.

Getting yourself busy and occupied also enhances your conversation skill indirectly. The more activities you got yourself into, the more exciting life stories you accumulate. Telling your exciting life stories to women is one of the best ways to attract women.

Once you get your personal life handled, here’s how you play hard to get.

o Don’t see or meet her more than twice a week.

o Don’t call her more than twice or thrice a week.

o Keep your conversation with her short when you are on a phone.

o Always end the conversation on a high note first.

o Always end the date also on a high note first.

o When she wants to see you, tell her you are busy and see her at a later time on the same day.

o Pretend like you have 100 women calling you everyday.

o Fill your week with different dates instead of just focusing on 1 woman.

The bottom line of the concept behind the gift of missing you is to make yourself as scarce as possible. Scarcity is what makes people feel obsessed. The power of obsession is very powerful, use it wisely and you are on your way to get your dating life handled. Use it the evil way; get ready to meet PSYCHO people. I am just kidding.

Florida is known as the sunshine state. The weather is always great.

Certainly that is one of the many reasons brides flock to Florida to get married. Saying “I do.” in the sunshine is always a good time. The venue options are countless and there are many wedding service professionals to make your ceremony perfect.

As a native Floridian with a particular fascination for the state, here are some personal favorites where you could have your wedding.

1. Sea World’s Discovery Cove, Orlando, Orange County

2. St. Augustine and Anastasia Island, Flagler County

3. Don Cesar Beach Resort, St. Petersburg Beach, Pinellas County

4. Pensacola Beach, Emerald Coast, Santa Rosa County

5. Cocoa Beach (near Patrick’s Airforce Base), Brevard County

6. Gaylord Palms Hotel, Orlando, Orange County

7. Portofino Bay Hotel, Orlando, Orange County

8. Grand Floridian Resort & Spa, Orlando, Orange County

9. Magic Kingdom’s Cinderella Castle, Orlando, Orange County

10. The Atlantic Oceanfront Boutique hotel, Ft. Lauderdale, Broward County

11. Biltmore Hotel, Coral Gables, Miami-Dade county

12. The Ritz-Carlton Grande Lakes, Orlando, Orange County

13. Hyatt Regency Grand Cypress, Orlando, Orange County

14. Omni Resort at Champions Gate, Orlando, Orange County

15. Renaissance Vinoy Resort and Golf Club, St. Petersburg, Pinellas County

These above are just a few of the remarkable options available. Depending upon your budget there are many more places I could recommend.

Do yourself a favor and find a wedding minister who is fun, personal, and professional. The spirit of the ceremony is most attributed to the orator directing and officiating. Get your officiant to tailor make and personalize your ceremony according to your preferences. Don’t settle for anything less. When you get married, get a minister who will give you what you like best.