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Did you ever see a man in the grocery line who you wanted to talk to? Maybe he was in the line at the bank or even at a friend’s party. You struggle to come up with something to say. It feels like you can hear the clock ticking while you pray that your brain will finally kick in and come up with a clever question. Well, one thing I can tell you is that it doesn’t have to be hard at all. In fact it can be amazingly simple and easy.

Here’s what happened to me this week. I was at the gas station standing by the pump waiting for it to register so I could fill my tank. On the other side of the pump was a man in his 40’s, who poked his head between the pumps from the other side, smiled and brightly said, “hello.” Yeah, I was a little surprised. Not the usual way things go at the gas pump. But I said hello and smiled back.

Mr. Gas then moved past the pump to be in plain view. He smiled again and said, “Can you believe it’s October 1st already? I just heard on the radio how many days it is until Christmas!”

As you can see, this is not rocket science, but it did work. I chatted with him briefly. It was a harmless, friendly exchange. Perhaps had I shown more interest, he might have pursued me further, but I’m not available.

The simplest comment or question about nothing much at all is the best way to break the ice. Don’t’ strain your brain rummaging around for a super funny, clever line. forget that. Too much pressure. And your inner critic will most likely shoot down anything you do manage to come up with any way.

I’ll give you a few starters so that you can get the idea:

- What a beautiful day!

- I love this time of year

- Doesn’t the air smell good today?

- The sky is really blue today

- Are you a Steelers fan? Did you see the game last night?

- What a nice shirt

- I’m so glad it’s Friday

You could come up with a few of these right? Keep a few in your mental back pocket so when you come in contact with men, you’ll have something to say without hanging back. You must strike while the iron is hot so to speak. Hesitating will usually mean he got away before you uttered a syllable.

Most importantly, don’t pressure yourself into thinking this will turn into something. It’s just flirty conversation and great practice. The more you do it, the more comfortable you’ll get with the process. And it can actually be fun!

I do know a man who met his wife in the grocery store this way. She asked him to reach something on a top shelf for her. (One of my favorite tricks since I’m shy of 5 feet!) Now they’ve been married for more than 20 years.

Just start talking to people. Friendly people who are comfortable with themselves are very attractive and approachable. Make it easy for men and give it a whirl.

Senior dating service is an online dating website for seniors, it is completely free to join and your membership allows you instant access to other member’s profiles. This then presents you with the opportunity to search through and read the information given.

Building your own profile is easy, just follow the simple guidelines, write some basic information regarding what you like. Your hobbies and interests, the more you can provide about yourself the easier it is for other members to learn about you. You could include your favourite type of music, favourite movie, even your favourite types of food and where you like to take your holidays. Senior dating service provides a safe and friendly environment for seniors to spend their time and make friends.

Photographs can be uploaded and added to your personal profile on the website. Just out of interest did you know that there are more male members likely to view a profile with a photograph than females viewing a profile because it has a photograph? Just goes to show which sex depends on looks more! Members can send and reply to other member’s messages on the website , all confidentially, that is the great point to the senior dating service website it is safe and secure. You only need to divulge exactly what you wish to, nobody is forcing you to say anything you do not want to. Your profile need only contain the information that you choose.

You can spend your time just searching the other profiles on the website if you choose. Discover someone you like , just send a message, it is as easy as that. How you further it from that point is your choice. It will display who is online when you sign on the web site so you can pick and choose a member to ‘chat’ too if you so wish. When it lists who is online it also tells you a little about the member without having to view their profile.

You can see their user name, age, what they are looking for , like long term relationship, friendship or just looking for a small chat with someone . They may describe their body type which could be athletic, average or sexy , and their current marital status .These are good features with senior dating service, as you do not have to access a member’s profile to learn more about them.

Another piece of information included is the member’s star sign, this is very important to some people. They respect this on dating sites and therefore it is contained within the short piece about the member. The fact that many people find appealing about the senior websites , is that you know that everyone else who is a member of senior dating service is a senior, there are no youngsters just seniors. You are in the company of your own generation from the start. So you can relax, even if it is just your age that you have in common it is better than having nothing in common at all.

When a person finds themselves suddenly single and over 50 they often fear that the rest of their life will be lonely. They would like to start dating, but where does one meet other single seniors. Actually, there are lots of places to meet, you just have to get out there and do it. Here are a few suggestions:

• Invitations

Never turn down an invitation to a group event. You may feel you really don’t want to go to the Jones’ BBQ, because Mr. Jones’ brother or sister is so hard to get away from, but go anyway. You never know, someone else may bring a single sibling whom you could very much like. If not, you can always leave early. After all, seniors have the reputation for going to bed early!

• Volunteer

Groups always need helping hands. If you are willing to do the things they need done, most community groups will welcome you.

Keep watch in the community newspaper, or on the bulletin board in the super market. Opportunities to help are frequently listed there.

Hospitals have volunteer groups. So do churches, Youth group such as Big Brother and Big Sister, or the Scouting programs. Habitat for Humanity is another group that welcomes volunteers. How about the Library? You could help, locally, for elections. They always need more help. You are needed, just give some of them a try.

• Community Events

Often the volunteer groups mentioned above, or others of the community have big events they put on for the community as fund raisers. These are very fun places to meet other people. And you are donating to the good the organization is doing for the community.

Watch for them , and join in. You’ll be surprised how many people you can meet at an Ice Cream Social, or a Cheese and Wine Tasting. Community activities are really fun.

• Census

For the next couple of years the government will be taking another census. They are hiring for this right now. Check it out at your County Seat. It is not a full time job, so if you aren’t anxious to be back at work it won’t matter as you will work an easy schedule. You will sure meet lots of folks this way. And get paid a bit as well. That can’t hurt!

I’ve mentioned a few places. There are so many more. Once you start thinking about it, you’ll get plenty of ideas. Give your ideas some action. Wherever a group of people tend to gather, there is a good chance you’ll meet new friends. Possibly even someone you’d like to date.

But, you have to get out and get active to do so.

Are you a busy professional? Do you have a demanding, important job that occupies most of your time and energy? You may really enjoy and have true passion for your work. But let me ask you this question: If a man wrote that he’s a busy professional with a demanding job that takes up most of his time - would you be interested? Or would you wonder if he’d even have time to date you?

Your online dating profile is ADVERTISING. Yes, I believe in truth in advertising. But do you need to slap men in the face with your truth? Uh, not if you want to attract one.

One of the foundational principles of advertising is called POSITIONING. This is the process marketers use to create an image or identity. That’s what you are doing with your profile - creating your identity as a desirable woman. The question becomes: Is busy professional with little time the best image to portray? Perhaps you have other qualities that could actually make you seem like a fun/interesting person to spend time with and get to know…

Even though you are busy, no man wants to hear that. You wouldn’t want to hear that either - its off putting regardless of how true. He’ll find that out about you any way, but its not a SELLING POINT.

In advertising that’s well done, the focus is on the “good stuff.” When you get to talk to and meet him, you can tell him more about your life - in stages. Otherwise, its too much information and not appropriate for attracting love or the dating game.

Some women tell me they want men to know right up front who they are. OK, but besides your demanding career, does anything else define you? Are you easy to be with, fun-loving, athletic, a Yankee fan, supportive or entertaining?

There is a strategy to online profile writing - it’s not fibbing and it’s not bold face truth either. Positioning that’s well done is the key to online success AND to getting much of what you want in life. Soften up your profile and promote your good points. Illustrating why you are a good catch is the name of the game.

International dating scares some people because they fear getting stuck in a boring long distance relationship. Maybe you know you want to meet a foreign woman or foreign man but are not sure you are ready for marriage. Perhaps you have considered dating someone from another country while both of you continue living in your own land… but you would hate to have a lame relationship… just for the sake of being in one. Here are some expert tips from legendary lovers skilled in the art of international romance to help you keep the fires roaring… even when you are separated by thousands of miles of land and sea. 

5- Tips From Legendary Lovers For Exciting Long Distance Love Affairs

1.  Plan ahead, even weeks in advance if necessary, to share in a quiet web cam date. Prepare a dinner, pick a movie or break out an old school board game you both enjoy. Plan to spend several hours alone, together over a web cam with no interruptions. Few things really say I Love You like taking the time to prepare a meal or block out time to share in conversation, laughter and time alone.

2. Find little details that let your love know you have been thinking of them and you care for their needs. You can make cards or write them letters. Send meaningful gifts, or crafts you made or bought.  Pick something they will find special and send it via international postal delivery. You can create a slide show, digital album, sweet or funny videos and even a music mix of songs that express how much this person means to you.

3. If you have a long day take 15 minutes and send your sweetheart a quick email or chat message. Let your relationship be like a spectacular garden of roses, the beauty grows with a little daily attention.

4. Be excited and happy to see each other on line or when you receive a message. A relationship filled daily with some ecstasy erases the rough parts of the physical distance. Be bold and creative in uplifting each other’s spirits. Be sympathetic if your partner at times feels sad by the distance and be kind on yourself and your relationship when you feel the same sadness. Always leave things on a high note. 

5.  Take each day to maintain part of the relationship in order. Do not let things become routine or boring. Take interest in what affects your lovers life. Make sure you share in each others passions and support one another. The Internet today has reduced the illusion of time and space. You can use online voice calls, free video, email, chat and much more to keep a constant bounce and shine to your international relationship.

International dating is very exciting and full of possibilities. Take your time and be sure to travel as often as you can to be with the love of your life or have them come visit you. After all the point of a relationship is to spend time at each others side.

Use the Internet to smash the barriers between you and be sure when you do see each other face-to-face the encounter is as romantic and enchanting as possible for both of you. You never know how long it will be till you are both in each other’s arms again.  

Senior citizens are taking advantage of senior dating online to combat lonely days and find that dear companion. Those days when you needed to meet at the Bingo club or Senior Citizens Community room are long gone.

All you need today is a home computer and an internet connection and you’re half way to romance. Senior dating online is an easy convenient way to enjoy companionship from anywhere around the world.

Millions of single senior citizens are perusing the online dating services today. They entertain the options of utilizing the speediest methods to romance; The Internet.

For many seniors learning and using the computer is an adventure. Reliving their youth is therapeutic and fulfilling and breathes exuberance into an often lonesome existence.

Initially, upon beginning to utilize any senior online dating web site, you’ll want to ensure the site offers a good security plan so you are not compromised in any way. You must realize that there are scam artists out there who will portray someone their not.

There are online senior dating services that have years of experience matching single seniors. These senior dating sites are set up specifically with seniors in mind and they ensure their web sites are properly looking after members interests.

Before signing up, be sure to peruse some sites and read online reviews. Most of the reputable senior dating sites offer free trials you can take advantage of.

Upon finding a few services that you’ll enjoy, sign up for a free trial. Create a free account, which is simple and takes about 5 to 10 minutes, depending on your internet connection and how well you know your way around a pc.

Meeting other singles online is simple; just examine some profiles until you find compatible members.

Joining a few sites will provide a better idea of your expectations from that service. Joining one online dating site might not meet your expectations and could make you feel as though you’re wasting your time. This is why it’s important that the site offers a free trial.

Every service isn’t the same; they all have the same general idea, but each one provides its own unique personality and various guidelines.

Senior online dating may be the beginning of a lasting companionship. But to remain safe, take it slow at first; don’t provide too much information about yourself, but enjoy your newfound online freedom.

This is a brand new adventure and think of the possibilities. Meeting thousands of senior singles dating from your area and beyond can bring a whole new world into your life.

The fact that many people in this age bracket have been in previous relationships notwithstanding, they still get weak in the knees when asking someone for a first date. This article aims to provide male and female baby boomers with tips on how to ask for that seemingly impossible first date.

Find out if they are Available

A good number of baby boomers are either engaged, in relationships or are happily married with or without kids. It would be folly to date someone in any of the above relationships. Therefore the first step is to find out the relationship status of the baby boomer you are interested in.

Does he/she like you?

Before you memorize your best pick up lines, take a minute or two and ask yourself if the object of your desire even likes you. If you are not in their radar then asking for a date will only lead to one outcome. In order to avoid the heartache that comes with rejection, it is important to find out if the other person likes you first.

Drop hints

This is probably the best way to ask a baby boomer for a date without risking rejection. Hints could come in the form of an invitation to spend the time going for a walk or bike ride. Or in form of going to a show/game/movie together.

Be generous with compliments

What better way to express your interest in a baby boomer than by appealing to their ego? Compliments can range from the clothes they wear, their smile and many more things. You have to be creative.

Timing is everything

Choosing the right moment to pop that question could mean everything. Wait until you can talk to the other person in private. Many people consider first time dates a private affair. It therefore will not help your cause if you blurt out the question in front of a crowd.

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Baby boomers fall into a unique category if they suddenly find themselves in the middle of the dating scene again. We have been there and done that, but it seems like the rules have changed since we were dating years ago. This is what I have learned about the dating process now that I am over fifty.

• Going on a date has become much more complicated. You will both have careers, children, elderly parents and other lifestyle issues that make it more difficult to just go to dinner and a movie without having to make arrangements for people or pets.
• More than likely you will have major disagreements with the person you are dating over issues such as religion, politics, the economy, child-rearing, retirement choices, and more. Resign yourself to this so that you are not personally insulted when your date disagrees vehemently with you when you make what you think is just an innocent comment.
• You aren’t a kid anymore so sex is not the most important thing. Even if it seems like it is in the very beginning, soon one or both of you will just be too tired or some body part will hurt. This is because you will both probably have arthritis.
• It can be fun getting to know someone new at any age. It is very interesting to be dating someone who is also a grandparent. Family gatherings become multi-generational and you never know what might happen.
• You deserve to be happy. If you want to start dating just go for it. Your ideal mate could be out there right now thinking the very same thing.

First, our goal here is not to endlessly date men. No, our mission is to learn how to date as charming, vivacious, intelligent older women who are looking for true love within a committed relationship.

I am a divorced 59-year old woman who understands wholeheartedly the discouraging challenges of dating after 40. It wasn’t my desire to reenter the callous, combative dating single world, but it seemed the better alternative to living a lifeless, loveless, lonely existence with a non-communicating, insensitive, neglectful husband. So here I am, divorced again, alone and struggling with my relationship marketability as a 50+year old woman.

This is what I have learned in the past years: It is emotional suicide to try to compete with the skinner, bouncier, wrinkle-free younger woman who looks marvelous with no make-up, no bra and no modesty in her extremely low-slung jeans with a seductive pink thong peering from underneath. As for myself, I have cellulite bubbles, wings that won’t fly and a bosom that begs for a boob job.

All in all, I am an attractive 59-year old woman. But in the past, it was my lifetime of negative self-criticisms that chipped away at my self-worth, mutilated my confidence and sabotaged my chances of attracting a man who would love and value me as a beautiful mature woman.

Five years ago, I stumbled onto a dating concept that lead me to believe that I am a seasoned, sophisticated babe and any man would be lucky to have me. Over the years I have acquired depth of wisdom, intelligence and poise; I have developed the ability to communicate with and understand my man, earn a nice paycheck, be a spectacular social butterfly, live my life fearlessly and at the end of the day relax, laugh and enjoy a Grande margarita with my equally awe-inspiring girlfriends.

My message to the mature divorced, widowed or single woman who struggles with low self-esteem issues in her quest to find ever-lasting love is this: Never compare yourself to another woman. It will erode your self-confidence. Stop concentrating on what you are not, and instead take an inventory of all the wonderful, enduring qualities you have earned in the last twenty plus years. Most importantly, realize that you were born with special talents, abilities and a unique personality that were intended to manifest itself in a powerful, beautiful mature woman.

It is the culmination of our life’s experiences–good, bad and indifferent–that make us who we are today and it is the experiences that perhaps hurt us the most, the ones we survived emotionally, that have molded our personal strength. Understanding this can inspire us to correct the negative attitudes and behavior that impede our ability to be confident, self-reliant, poised women–if only we will allow it.

Now that its official, your last kid has left and you find yourself faced with an empty nest, how are you going to cope with the depression and loneliness that follows? Empty nest syndrome is something that most parents face at one time in their lives. The day you gave birth to your child was the day you made a commitment that would span 20-odd years of your life. Once that commitment is over, the time has come for you to begin afresh with plans for the coming 20 years. Now comes the time for you to do those things that you’ve always wanted to do, instead of just moping around the place and getting depressed.

So, you’re a single parent whose child has just ‘flown the nest’. Now this doesn’t mean that you have to live a lonely life! Its time to go ahead and extend your friend circle and to just go out there and socialize and have fun and feel young at heart again - and probably find that right someone! So you have found that right someone? Even better!

We’re living in an age where divorce rates are at the highest ever. And this is not only with reference to marriages! Relationships are turning sour and breaking every day, creating a vicious cycle of tortured emotions and badly beaten self-confidence. So, as a mature, independent adult, how would you go about building your relationship into something that’s healthy, strong and resilient?

Unlike the movies where everything is sugary sweet and ‘happy-go-lucky’, reality can bite, even if you have found the right person. A happy, successful relationship is an extension of your willingness to spend time and energy with your mate. Just like everything of value, relationships require regular care and maintenance; you can’t wait till the last moment to fix things. If you don’t invest in what it takes to keep your relationship vibrant and healthy, then you’re in for a bumpy ride. So, while the going is good, work on your relationship. And, when the going gets tough, work harder on it!

Right from day one, pay special care and attention to your partner. Show that you love him or her. Find out what he or she likes and then try to do all those things. As a mature adult whose probably already faced the loss of a partner, you should work harder on this relationship. Keep in mind that your partner will probably end up making mistakes and doing exactly those things that frustrate and annoy you. Your challenge here is to be patient and overlook these things. Don’t try to even the score and hold grudges against your partner; it’s a relationship you’re in, not a competition. Let go of the past - yours as well as your partners!

Listen, learn and enjoy! The key to a long lasting, successful relationship is ‘listening’. However, this does not mean you have to agree to everything your significant other says. Understand and acknowledge what he or she is trying to say and always be attentive.