Relationships Articles

You might have just had your heart broken and now you’re not sure what you’re going to do. Relationships are never easy but now you’re desperate to do anything to get her back. I know how it feels to be completely hurt and desperate when your relationship just isn’t the way it used to be anymore. So I want to help you by telling about how you can get back with your ex-girlfriend starting right now…

Girls are driven primarily by emotions more than men, but they also want rather similar things than you. They want someone who is willing to be there for them, support them and continue to flirt and treat them well. Your girl didn’t want to hurt you, but it could be that you’re doing something to subconsciously push her further away. Are you being overly clingy? Needy? Controlling? A girl doesn’t want a baby to look after, but a man that they know they can depend on.

So what could you be doing wrong? To get back with your ex-girlfriend you need to first figure out what you might have done wrong. Sometimes it might seem as if nothing was wrong in the relationship. Now a girl is not going to leave unless she didn’t feel fulfiled anymore. Understanding what might have changed to begin with is a very good place to start.

Your situation might appear hopeless right now but rest assured, your ex-girlfriend hasn’t forgotten about you, she probably still wants to be friends. Be careful however as becoming friends too soon after a break up is not always the best option. The right plan starts with allowing your girlfriend to see that you’re not a child anymore and you will respect their decision to break up (for now). Holding yourself together during this time is very attractive and she will be half confused and half impressed by your reactions to the break up.

You certainly don’t need to be some mindreader or play psycological mind games with your girl to bring her back… it has all to do with the way you carry yourself and how she perceives you during this critical time.

There is a game that children play called the GAME of LOVE. It comes in a form of a cube that has six quotations. They roll the dice and whatever quotation comes on top, they practice living it for the day.

Imagine a die that you would normally roll in a game but instead of numbers, it has quotations. And each morning, a child can roll it and “live” the quotation for the day. This is a POWERFUL tool that can be used to improve relationships.

Relationships dry because people stop caring and stop loving the other person, and basically just think of themselves. But we can learn from this GAME OF LOVE. Here are the six quotations:

1. LOVE EVERYONE. This quote makes us look outside of ourselves and becomes directed to the person in front of us. He or she may be your spouse, your teen-age son or daughter, your neighbor or office-mate. To love everyone means to think of their welfare, to be kind to them and to spread a positive feeling to everyone you meet.

2. BE THE FIRST TO LOVE - This is a bit challenging. Do not wait for the other person to make the first move. But instead be the first one to initiate something good. It can be giving the other person a glass of water if he or she is thirsty.

3. SEE JESUS IN THE OTHER PERSON - For Christians, Jesus represents the second person in the Triune God. But he represents a person, a person to love back. Jesus said in the Gospel “Whatever you do to the least of your brothers, you do it to me” Seeing Jesus in the other person will put us in a frame of mind that we cannot help but love that person, no matter how obnoxious he or she may be.

4. LOVE ONE ANOTHER - this is another way of enhancing relationships by applying the principle of RECIPROCAL LOVE.

5. MAKE YOURSELF ONE WITH THE OTHER- This means to put yourself in the shoes of the other person. For example if the other person is suffering due to the death of a loved one, be compassionate or empathize with that person. On the other hand, if your friend is rejoicing because her son won a tennis championship, rejoice with her.

6. LOVE YOUR ENEMY- This is the biggest challenge because this asks of us not to be an enemy to the other. Let’s not hit back but instead return a smile or a helping hand.

Our children are taught to play this game and roll it every morning. This has helped them very much. Do you want to improve your relationships? Let us learn from this.

TRY IT NOW. Live one quotation a day.

You’ll be surprised how GREATLY this can change your life!

I Love you is known to be one of the sweetest three words in the whole world. Every girl yearns to listen to these three small words while each man shudders at the thought of saying it. Contrary to popular misconceptions, saying “I love you” is quite simple. A lot of fuss is made about how to say it, when to say it and so on. Remember - no matter what you say, say it with your heart so that the other person understands just how much you mean it. Here are three unique ways of saying “I love you”:

1. Sweet tooth - Girls are known to have cravings for sweet. They are known to have this extra fondness towards chocolates and cakes. If you are good at cooking, then try baking a cake for your loved one. If she likes choco chips, then bake her a choco chip cake. You can use icing to express your feelings for her. Write “I love you” with icing on the cake top. Trust us - just by looking at the cake, her heart will melt. After she knows that you have given that extra effort to bake the cake, she would never have the heart to say no to you.
2. Different Language - Impress her with your knowledge. One of the qualities that girls crave for is knowledge. They want the guy to be learned, smart and even intellectually stimulating. Try and say “I love you” in a different language. Ask her to play a new game with you. Tell her something in a different language and ask her to guess what it is. Tell her “I love you” in a different language like German, Spanish or French and notice how her eyes flicker while she’s busy guessing. Ask her to keep on guessing till she finally finds out what you actually want to say.
3. Out of the Blue - Tell her magical words. When she least expects it, surprise her by saying what she was dying to hear the most. Take her out for a movie and say these sweet nothings in her ears. You can even talk to her about something completely different, act as if you are having an animated conversation and then surprise her by saying “I love you” all of a sudden.

Remember to say these three magical words - “I love you” straight from the heart. Unless you really mean it, your beloved would not respond to your feelings. So, make the move now!

When you first enter a long distance relationship, the romance is live and kicking. Everything is so new. But what happens after months of being in that relationship, and the flame dies?

Long distance relationships (LDRs) require more effort than short distance relationships. I’ve come to find in my own experience and in reading the stories of other peoples LDRs, many find it hard to express their feelings across the miles. You can say “I love you” as many times as you want, but how do you really show it?

Those in short distance relationships have it easy. These couples can reaffirm their love for another with a simple hug or kiss. But what about those in LDRs?

We have it hard. What do we have? Words. We interact with our loved ones through phone calls, email, and instant messaging. Words. And not all of us can speak eloquently and capture our lovers’ hearts. We do have it hard.

So we find creative and meaningful ways to share our love for one another. These include, but not limited to: homemade gifts, hand-made cards, poems, scrapbooks, letters, drawings, care packages, long distance “virtual” dates, personalized websites, there are lots of possibilities. The more creative, the better.

So when we do show our love, it is with meaning, not just a spoken “I love you.” Sometimes it is with such meaning, that it can be greater than a kiss or a hug, those conveniences of short-distance daters.

There is a silver lining after all.

This is the question, which seems very easy and very typical both. If you question any young couple, definitely you will find a positive reply. But, if you contact the parents, you will have to come back with a reply “NO”. Both are right at their places. Both have their different and quite important reasons behind their perceptions.

Most of the couples say that it is their life, and they are capable enough to choose the perfect companion for them. The commonest reason, they give, is that they can adjust more easily with one, whom they are in love with, than with a stranger. They say they have trust and good understanding between them, which never let them have any confusion or suspicion.

Parents have their own ideas. They say they are experienced enough about the life; they know what’s good or bad for their children. In most of the parents’ views, there is nothing like love; it’s just only attraction, which decays after a certain period of time. They present very strong perception that they can think nothing bad of their children; after all they are parents.

While these both are fine, both are unable to get the solution of married life failure. Why? Simple, sometimes couples are wrong, and at others, parents. Actually, it is out of both. It doesn’t matter how aware and responsible the parents are or how deeper you are in love, there are some other factors, which matter. For avoiding the cursed married life here some great assistance is given:

First, I want to come to the parents, who say they never want to hurt their children; whatever they do, just for their betterment. I don’t say you are wrong; but you are also not supposed to ignore their choice directly. If you don’t want to hurt your child why are you ruining your image in his/her heart? If you are really careful and want to show your experience and intelligence, you should use it to inspect whether or not that person is right for your child. It is not only for those, who are much strict, but also for those, who are careless about their children. I don’t say you just leave them, saying ‘it’s their life’. Parents must keep watching into the children’s life; but not as possession, but as duty.

Now, I am before the couples, who are seeking their life partner in their loves. First dears, you must realize the difference between love and marriage; lover and life partner, and dreams and reality. You would have understood what I want to say. I’m not saying you should never think that your love may be proved as the best one for you, in the entire life.

You may find all the qualities of a perfect lover inside whom you love, but it is not necessary that this perfection will remain, when that one will be your spouse. Even sometimes, your perfect love may not want to marry in entire life. When you are in love, you both don’t have so much responsibility as after marriage, so having same expectations after marriage will not be fair.

Overall, I meant to say that if you are not in dreams, your love is attached to real world and then if you both are true to your expectations, undoubtedly, your love will be alive for your whole life.

1. Touch Your Partner

Give your partner a hug, kiss, hold hands, snuggle or massage them. Just be close. Nothing is more powerful than the power of touch.

2. Leave Love Notes and Poems

Write love messages and leave them throughout the house. Send an email or text message to let your partner know you are thinking about them. Leave a note on their car, in their pocket, under their pillow. Buy a card or send a letter to them in the mail. A little note or poem expressing your love will show your partner how much you care about them.

3. Food

They say “the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach,” however this works equally well for women. Express your love by cooking a surprise dinner and set the atmosphere with music, candlelight, and flowers. Cook your partner’s favorite recipe. You may also give your partner the night off by making reservations at their favorite restaurant.

4. Plan a Date

Prepare a picnic, go for a walk, or plan an activity your partner loves. Plan something special rather than just the standard dinner and movie. The more time you put into planning a date, the more special it will be. Since time is our most precious commodity, spending a lot of planning time can be much more impressive than simply spending a bunch of money.

5. Hold eye contact with your partner’s eyes.

Gaze at your partner lovingly. By maintaining eye contact with your partner, you show them that they are the most important thing on your mind at that moment. Holding eye contact can increase your heart rate and creates a sense of unity and bonding.

When you want to make someone fall in love with you, especially if you’re a woman, then you may first think about appearance. This is one piece of the equation, yes, but in and of itself it’s nothing important or integral to falling in love. The second thing that happens to women is they start to consult other women for advice through magazines, online forums and alike. These tidbits of information don’t help in the end, as they take a female perspective and completely miss the point.

Beyond missing the point, which is key to make someone fall in love with you, they misinform and put pressure on women to change in order to attract. Now the tides have changed and thanks to men finally speaking out about what they really want women can make someone fall in love with them with ease. I should mention here that I only recommend learning from someone who has experience working with men, is a man himself and, most of all, has a loving relationship which equates to first hand experience instead of second hand advice.

The little known way to hook any man’s heart and have him never leave you is to simply give him what he wants. This means you only need to learn what it is a man really wants and I can pretty much guarantee what you’re thinking, or believe you know already, is dead wrong (or off enough that you’re making mistakes and preventing that which you’re seeking). Men, just like women, have a lot of societal pressures and feel obligated to live up to certain standards. This has made it hard for men to admit what they really want as, at times, it can contradict what people ‘believe’ men are supposed to want. Bob Grant, counselor for nearly two decades, backs my claims in his new book; in case if you have any doubts you can read it for yourself.

Do you want to know what makes a guy fall in love? Do you have a long history of failed relationships where you haven’t managed to get a man to love you? How can you understand male psychology and make men fall in love with you? Although you might think that men and women are completely different that’s not strictly true. If you want to understand what makes a guy fall in love then you should read the rest of this article for valuable information.

Most women believe that bonding with a man on a physical level is the best way to get into a relationship; however that is never the thing that you should do if you are interested in a long lasting relationship. It’s actually much better if you can build a strong emotional bond with the guy so that you can fall in love and get off to the right start. If you can start your relationship as good friends then this will create a much stronger relationship. Talk to him on a regular basis and spend time learning about him. Men like someone who has time for them and has time to discuss their feelings. Understanding what makes a guy fall in love will make it much easier to attract men.

It’s important that you make sure that he admires you. You need to be very careful that you don’t only focus on getting him to admire you physically. Being attracted to your looks is great however he also needs to like your personality and want to get to know you better. Your looks might attract him however it’s your personality that will keep him interested. Make sure you are genuine because if you’re not then he will only get turned off.

You need to be careful when you decide to have sex; if you have sex too early on in a relationship then it can damage your changes of a long lasting relationship. It’s important to spend time building a strong emotional bond as this is much more important than a physical bond. If you can hold off on an intimate relationship then you will be able to spend time learning about one another. This makes it possible to create a special strong bond before you even get to the physical part of your relationship. Understanding what makes a guy fall in love is pretty easy when you can start thinking like a guy in the first place.

This is an amazing story. It’s about my friend Robert. Robert is one of those really charismatic people. You know the kind I mean. Wherever he goes, people are just drawn to him, its truly a sight to behold.

At dinner the other night, Robert’s charm drew the waiters in and they conversed with him a great deal. However, when I spoke up, the waiters didn’t seem to pay much attention. They may have even been a little dismissive. It was as if the only person at the table was Robert. The difference was Robert’s charisma. He has that special way about him that we all sometimes wished we had.

Anyway, in order to find out what that special something was, I decided to interview Robert. I captured about 2 hours worth of questions and answers with him.

Here is what I found out. Robert basically, though he might not say this directly, ‘loves’ people when he talks to them.

He has genuine concern and positive regard. He likes to focus in on one thing that he finds especially interesting about a person when he talks to them. It doesn’t matter if he tells the person what that thing is or not, it seems to have the same effect. Try it and see what happens.

Now, how does that relate to health? Well you see, my article on the mind-body connection discusses the principle that Bernie Siegel wrote about in his book, Love, Medicine and Miracles. It seems that when his cancer patients revolutionized their thinking to become more loving and accepting of others, their cancer often went into remission.

You see, what Robert does with people, is love them when he talks to them. Keep in mind that love is an action, it is not an idea that sits there, it is active. Bernie’s cancer patients loved those around them more and as a result their health improved.

Now do you see the connection between charisma, love and health? By loving others, not only can your health improve, but your social life improves as well.

So what are you waiting for? Start looking for ways to love others more and watch your life improve in every aspect. This could be the most important thing you’ll read today. Why not share it with a friend?

This article is for information purposes only. If you have or think you have a health problem, visit your doctor for diagnoses and treatment.

Gentlemen, listen up! I’m gonna do all of you a big favor and give you all the information you need to make this and every Valentine’s Day special for your lady.

Now, lest you think I’m fishing for gifts, I think this manufactured “holiday” is rather inane also. I mean, I catch myself muttering, “Ah geesh! Valentine’s Day is coming up…what am I going to get my husband?” I know you grouse basically the same thought every year about your loved one so in the interest of lovers everywhere, I am offering my professional assistance. After all, being a woman kind of gives me the inside track on all this silliness.

Now, first off, let’s explore the fact that your lady knows full well what a crock all of this is and she doesn’t wish to add to your stress or workload. She may even go so far as to suggest that you both just forget the whole thing. CAUTION!! DO NOT; I repeat, DO NOT fall for this! She means well and is sincere, but if you are stupid enough to accept her offer, you’ll probably become good friends with the couch for a night or two.

The way to handle this is to give her a sly smile and a wink and tell her, “No way would I forget you, honey!” You will instantly see her melt and you’re well on your way to Valentine’s night nirvana, if you know what I mean.

Regarding a selection of gifts: Please refrain from getting her a gift you would like to have or see her in; i.e. a new weed-whacker or lingerie. Remember guys, if you have to plug it in or if it suggests she must perform a service for you, you’re in serious couch territory. Maybe, even sleeping-in-your-car territory. NO appliances whatsoever!

Also, for the most part, forget the candy thing. She doesn’t need it or even want it and what you can pick up in the drugstore or supermarket/Wal-Mart will be waxy and gross. If you can’t afford or do not have the some of the finer chocolates, such as Godiva, available then forget it.

So, what other traditional gifts can you consider? Flowers, my man, flowers. They are an extravagance for most any woman. I mean, when is the last time you gave her flowers, other that the time she gave birth to your children? Be honest; yeah, that’s what I thought.

Pay attention now, for the sake of peace stick a crowbar in your wallet and spring for a lovely bouquet from a florist (look it up!). Have it delivered to her workplace or make sure you know she’ll be home to receive it. It doesn’t have to be very expensive for it to make a great impression.

Again, it’s a wonderful extravagance to your average wife/girlfriend. Don’t forget to dictate a sweet, heartfelt message for the card that will be included and for Pete’s sake, DO NOT stop by the grocery store and pick up a plastic wrapped bunch of flowers and present them to her! I mean, duh! Think about it; SHE will have to cut the stems, strip off the leaves, find a container to put them in and frankly, by the time she finishes with all the mess involved, you’re pretty much a cheap schmuck in her eyes. Come on guys, she is worth more than that!

Let’s talk about greeting cards, the biggest waste of money on the planet. If I were you, I’d pick one out, but don’t pay more than about $2.00 for one. Those that play that annoying, shrill music when you open them are not cute to the average woman. They are electronic gizmos and therefore, are only interesting to you, a male.

The card can be mushy or funny. What is important is the handwritten message you inscribe, telling her you’re thankful she is in your life and you couldn’t live without her. You can present the card to her with a kiss that evening when you take her out to dinner. Once again, the amount of money you spend is not all that important, although I would forgo fast food restaurants for once.

Last, but not least, if she is allergic to flowers, most anything from Crabtree & Evelyn will do nicely.

I hope this insider information has been helpful. This celebration is mainly geared towards women so don’t be too offended if she doesn’t get you anything. It’s not always about you, you know. Treat her as a queen for the day and you might just end up with a big smile on your face and you know what I mean. You’re welcome.

2/1/08