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Men don’t want to be impotent, especially in the presence of a hot date. That’s why they often turn to the lucrative love potion industry for a wide selection of magical mixtures and aphrodisiacs that will supposedly cure a sagging libido. But before investing your hard-earned cash in the next sex enhancer you find, read this first. The US Food and Drug Administration (FDA) said aphrodisiacs don’t work and some can even be dangerous to your health.

“Aphrodisiac experimentation isn’t just a rip-off - it can be deadly. Spanish fly or cantharides is probably the most legendary aphrodisiac and the most dangerous. Made from dried beetle remains, the reported sexual excitement from Spanish fly comes from the irritation to the urogenital tract and a resultant rush of blood to the sex organs. But Spanish fly is a poison that burns the mouth and throat and can lead to genitourinary infections, scarring of the urethra, and even death,” warned Tamar Nordenberg, a lawyer with the Office of the Director in the FDA’s Center for Drug Evaluation and Research.

An aphrodisiac is a food, drink, scent or device that supposedly increases sexual desire or improves sexual performance. Its name was taken from Aphrodite, the Greek goddess of love and beauty. Throughout history, man’s quest for sexual satisfaction has led him to consume all kinds of substances that promise to lift his libido. These include tiger penis, bear paws, and snake bile among others. These are often hawked by glib-tongued peddlers, “doctors” with questionable degrees, and snake oil salesmen who can sell you the moon if they wanted to.

“Most of these (street) hawkers are college drop-outs, who apparently sacrificed their education in order to trudge through the Himalayas and remote forests in a disinterested quest for knowledge meant for the sexual betterment of those they left behind. There is a moral in all this: if you don’t study, you can always make money selling junk to those who did,” observed Rajiv M. in the online edition of India’s national newspaper The Hindu.

Some aphrodisiacs are based on the ancient law of similarities which maintains that an object resembling the genitals may have sexual powers. This is true for rhinoceros horn, ginseng, and oysters for example.

Sadly, while rhinoceros horn resembles the penis, all it can offer are calcium and phosphorous that can help correct deficient diets. In healthy individuals, its sexual effects are doubtful. Ginseng or “man root” which also looks like the penis was believed to cure impotence and sterility, and was valued as gold by the ancients. Unfortunately, the most you can get from this plant is a mild stimulant effect like the one produced by a cup of coffee. Large doses may cause hypertension, depression, nervousness, insomnia, swollen and painful breasts, menstrual irregularities and decreased libido - the very thing ginseng is supposed to correct.

Oysters are considered sex aids because Aphrodite was born from the sea and they resemble the vagina. Venetian adventurer and womanizer Giacomo Casanova supposedly ate 50 raw oysters a day that supposedly made him a good lover. Of course, oysters are a good source of zinc that can help deficient individuals. But if you don’t lack zinc - which is true for most Americans - don’t expect miracles. Megadosing on zinc can lead to copper deficiency, anemia, vomiting, diarrhea, kidney failure, and death.

To avoid being victimized by quacks, discuss your impotence problem with a good doctor. In most cases, the problem is only temporary and can be cured by rest, a healthy diet, and exercise. A good mental state is also important to enjoy sex. If none of these work, there are several available options. None are as exotic as goat’s eyes, deer sperm or frog’s legs perhaps but they do work. One of them is Erectasil, a lotion that can give men an “instant lift” so they can be where the action is. Visit http://erectasil.com for details.

Making a girl orgasm is often one of the most important skills every man must know at every cost. But the problem is that most people aren’t born with these skills and are not provided with a perfect manual which would teach them how to satisfy women in bed. This is the reason why it’s extremely important for you to know these tips. Read on to discover some of the most mind blowing ways you can use right now to make a girl orgasm extremely fast………..

Make sure she is in the right mood- The way a girl feels has a lot to do with whether she will achieve an orgasm or not. Always remember that a girl will not orgasm unless she is in the right frame of mind and totally stress free. It is often said that her moods have a positive effect on the flow of hormones in her body which would eventually make her orgasm faster than ever.

Spend most amount of time on foreplay- Foreplay would more or less be the warm up before the big thing. You should always spend the majority of your time on foreplay as the more aroused she is the more likely she is to achieve an orgasm.

Train yourself to last longer in bed- This is one thing almost every girl out there seems to complain about on a regular basis. A lot of men out there are not able to last long enough in bed due to which they are not able to make their partner orgasm. You see one of the best techniques to really keep it going in bed is to masturbate a few times before you have sex as that would automatically make you last longer.

#1. Perform woman on top position, but not in the regular pose. Instead, let her gyrate her hips in circular motion. It is able to provide greater orgasmic friction on vaginal wall and G spot. As well, the snug fit can make your modest member feels huge inside her.

#2. When you are on top, keep her legs close together and rest them on our shoulder. It shortens and tightens vaginal canal, which can send you both soaring.

#3. Prior to sex, have her to shave her pubic hair. It helps to increase vaginal sensitivity and intensify orgasmic pleasure during intercourse.

#4. If you want to give her the ultimate pleasure, you can’t go wrong with cunnilingus. The reason is simple: women love oral pleasure! It makes them feel loved and appreciated. As well, it can trigger the big “O” easily.

#5. G spot stimulation: G spot, which is located on the vaginal front wall, is the pleasure point for women. When stimulated, it can make her swoon and push her over the edge. Remember though: you must make her fully aroused before G-spot stimulation.

#6. Tease her: when she is getting aroused, back away from your action. Have her to wait for a while before you start again. Then, repeat the process few times. The technique allows you to have total control. That way, it makes the whole experience exciting to her and elongates her sensation.

#7. Increase penis size: if you are well endowed, the benefit is obvious. You will be able to provide erotic stimulation to your partner while making love. If your manhood is less than average, we highly recommend you exercise the penis regularly to increase its length and girth.

‘My touch can tell you what my words cannot

My touch can reach the places my heart feels

My touch can heal your deepest hurt

My touch can bring you the highest pleasure.’

There is magic in touch, there is comfort, healing, connection, warmth and melting pleasure.

We are sexual end sensual beings from the time we are born to the day we die.

We need touch, we crave to touch and be touched. Many studies have been done on those deprived of touch on infancy and childhood and the problems experienced by this lack.

It has been suggested that for optimum health an adult needs 8 hugs a day, 8 embraces that enfold you in someone’s arms, not just a quick grab and squeeze, slap on the back. How many hugs have you had today like that?

The world of sensual touch offers an endless range of pleasure and possibilities.

We need to understand the difference between sex and sensuality to understand the possibilities of this form of touch.

Sex is generally a goal-oriented, genital activity. The goal of sex is orgasm. Once that’s happened then the game’s over and we go on to the next activity, which for men is generally falling asleep. So perhaps it should be called ‘going’ rather than ‘coming’.

Sensuality is different. A sensual experience includes all that we are, from the top of our head to the soles of our feet and everything in between. Sensuality also includes our hearts, emotions and feelings.

This makes sensual massage and touch an intimate experience.

Sex is not necessarily intimate. It’s vulnerable but not intimate. When a man is asking for sex he’s vulnerable. When a woman opens her body she’s vulnerable.

If you’re having sex and your eyes are closed and you’re lost in some fantasy, there’s no intimacy in that.

Many women will tell you that kissing is often more intimate than sex.

Sensual massage and touch doesn’t have an end goal. It doesn’t have to go anywhere specific. It’s not always heading for orgasm.

One of the reasons sexual encounters are not always fulfilling, especially casual sex and one-night stands is that they offer a physical release, a few hours of touching, but no more.

It feels good but as soon as it’s done we’re looking for the next one.

What we’re looking for is intimacy, a deeper connection than just a pair of genitals sharing pleasure.

This is where the excitement of sensual touch and its many possibilities comes in. It even offers us different possible endings than sex.

Sex generally ends in orgasm unless you’re practicing Tantra and are aware of other Eastern sexual philosophies and practices. By focusing on reaching orgasm we move out of the moment, out of the pleasure we’re experiencing and into what we need to do to get to the orgasm.

Sensual touch puts us right in the present, in our bodies and fully here with our partner. It can become sexual but doesn’t have to; it may include genital playing but doesn’t have to.

It may be reciprocal or a gift that you give or receive from your partner. It can be a form of deep healing, of communication and connection.

It can be a picture that you paint on your lovers beautiful body or a poem that you write on their skin.

It can be a time of constant exploration of the wonder of both your bodies, for to do this type of massage is to explore yourself as much as your partner, so you get so much from giving. One common complaint is that one partner always gives more massage, more pleasure, initiates more than the other. This leads to frustration and anger and a feeling of resentment if I’m always the one massaging you and when you do reciprocate it’s often a perfunctory rub that leaves me feeling worse.

The single biggest sexual problem in relationships is boredom.

People lose interest in each other; they end up making love in the same position, same night, same time. It becomes a duty, just another thing we do.

Sensual massage and touch is never boring as it allows you to massage as an extension of how you feel. If you’re energetic and playful, you can touch one way, if you’re chilled and relaxed you can touch differently. There are no rules other than do what feels good for both of you.

You’re not bound to any specific massage routine. This comes from inside and anyone can do it.

I have a saying that your hands know how to massage and touch, your mind says you don’t.

We all have this within us; it simply needs to be woken up.

This type of massage also teaches you to massage with EVERY part of your body. This gives you constant excitement and exploration. You’ll always see your partner and your self from new angles; feel something that you’ve never felt before.

Every time you massage will be different, therefore you can’t get bored. You get into a spiral of excitement and looking forward to play time, thinking of new possibilities, new ways to touch. It opens a wonderful avenue of creativity that spills over into other aspects of life.

The gentleness of this touch takes us back to a time of safety that we first felt when we were babies. When a baby cries, we pick it up, check if the nappy needs to be changed, are they hungry, thirsty, hot or cold. After that we cuddle and rock them, stroke them until they’re calm.

They feel safe and loved.

This touch is reminiscent of those feelings. Feeling safe opens the doors to communicating, deep and honest words. This is a time when people will start talking about so many things they’ve never shared before. Many men are amazed at the ease with which they can talk about emotional issues after this type of massage, lying close with their partners.

Women are even more amazed that their men have feelings, never mind express them.

When we see and feel the benefits and excitement this touch and massage bring to our body and relationship, to our sexuality and our spirituality, we want more.

Then it becomes a wonderful conscious choice to spend more time with our partners. To touch and love and explore and play. We fall in love and lust again and again.

We become happy and fulfilled and peaceful.

We are healthier, we have more energy, and we become better parents, more productive at work.

Maybe the sharing of pleasure can bring us all this. Maybe it’s that simple.

Yes, there is a direct connection between the health of your our image and the amount/quality of pleasure we derive from sex.

Let’s face it; women buy into the multiple messages from our culture in regard to our body-image and this is a trap! Our culture’s perception of what is or what isn’t considered attractive and sexy has changed several times during the past century.

The flowing hairstyles and rounded figures of the early 1900s gave way to the boyish haircuts and bodies of the roaring 1920s. The hourglass figures of the next two decades, such as Marilyn Monroe, changed to the slender bodies of Mia Farrow and Twiggy. Then came the perfectly-tanned, toned and athletic bodies of the 1970s, 1980s and 1990s.

With all the changes in society’s perceptions of what sexy and beauty is, women often judge themselves by its capricious fancy and find themselves lacking. This affects body-image, which in turn affects the ability to enjoy sexual intimacy.

The internal monologues that dominate the thoughts of women with negative body images include: ‘My body is not good enough,’ or ‘I am forgotten by God or Mother Nature.’ These are draining forces of women’s intimate sexual experiences.

When a woman is preoccupied by how bad her body is perceived, she may not be able to focus on pleasuring herself or the other person. This preoccupation will use up the energy she would have had for uninterrupted playfulness, seduction, mutual eroticism and the pursuit of sexual satisfaction.

Understanding the connection between body-image and sexual intimacy is the key in improving your sexual performance and therefore sexual pleasures.

Here are several background events that can make a woman feel negative about her own body:

o Being raised by a critical parent

o Being trapped by appearance obsessions

o Experiencing physical/emotional/sexual abuse as a child, including molestation and/or inappropriate relations

o Loss of a parent(s) that was nurturing, and never replacing them with a significant caretaker

o Abandonment, neglect, absent parent - physically and/or emotionally

o Feeling of powerlessness due to the fact they were born females

o Messages from industries of fashion and media about what is desired, attractive and sexy and identifying with these messages; leaving you unattractive, undesirable, etc.

In overcoming these body image issues, it is necessary to clue your spouse or significant partner in on how you are feeling. Choose a time when you won’t be interrupted to discuss the problem, assuming that your partner is supportive and not a part of the problem.

Perhaps you can open the discussion with:

o “I know why I feel so bad about my body and I want to fix that perception.”

o “Teach me to love myself just like you love me.”

o “Come inside my head and see how come I am not responsive to your loving gestures. I

want to change that.”

This is a journey that will start with realizations.

A woman with poor self image needs to tell herself: ‘Some things outside of me and out of my control made me feel that way. I don’t have to stay in this predicament. I can learn to love myself in spite of how I feel about myself right now.’

Understanding why you feel the way you do about your body is the first step in changing how you perceive your body and thereby increasing the quality of your sex life. For the woman who feels good about herself, anything is possible, in the rest of her life, her sexuality and her body-image.

Would you like to improve your body-image and sexual pleasures?

Relationship Coaching will help undo years of negative body image.

Un-Trap Yourself!

If you look around on the internet these days you will discover literally thousands upon thousands of web pages and websites telling you what women really want in bed, unfortunately you will soon find that the majority of these pages are just plain rubbish. A lot of these pages seem to be giving you the impression that you need to trick your lover into having sex with you which is utter rubbish. Sex is supposed to be fun for both parties and if you need to trick your lover then you are doing something wrong.

That is why in this article I am going to give you some tips so that you never need to trick your lover into bed again!

1) Make sure you compliment her - Women are self-conscious about their bodies to the point of paranoia, make sure that you keep telling her how beautiful she is to you and you will have her completely reassured about herself and in the right mood to enjoy having sex.

2) Take the lead to begin with - Lots of women are shy about sex to begin with, then once they get into it they realise that they want certain things. So in the beginning take control of the situation and then later on when she really starts getting into it let her take control and do what she wants! Doing this you will find that she really does like to be in control and maybe later on will start to be comfortable enough with you to take the lead to begin with!

Women have just as much right to female libido enhancement as men have to male sexual enhancement. Women are just a little more shy about getting out there to find out what female libido enhancement can really mean.

Women have been conditioned to be so quiet about sexual issues that the world of female libido enhancement has only recently cropped up. The world of internet access and private ordering options make it easier for women to seek out help for their libido problems.

Female libido enhancement is becoming more readily available and more understood by women throughout the developed world. Scientific evidence has proven that the age old remedies used for centuries have stood the test of time, and the notion of female libido enhancement can now be contained in a bottle.

Female libido enhancement is far from a new concept. The Chinese developed libido enhancement for both genders centuries ago as an answer to creating a more well rounded sexual life for all citizens. The Romans, the Greeks, and civilizations before and since have always found special uses for female libido enhancement. Herbal supplementation has been the key ingredient in these remedies since the dawn of realization that a libido could be altered.

Americans squelched the idea of female libido enhancement as an acceptable form of supplementation during the times of the early settlers. Native American women were encouraged to enhance their libido during specific times of the moon. Only in the last twenty to thirty years has female libido enhancement begun to gain its status of acceptable supplementation. After all, proper females didn’t enjoy sexual activity.

Combining these ancient remedies with an increase in exercise and specific dietary alterations has proven to be highly successful for women of all ages and situations who are looking to spice up their bedroom once again. After all, male libido enhancement has been considered an acceptable form of supplementation for years. Women have been left out of the very important loop. Women are now ordering, changing, and developing a new and improved relationship with their own libido.

Female libido enhancement can add significant changes to a woman’s sexual life, and her level of intimacy with her partner can be greatly enhanced. While there is much more to a serious and committed relationship than sexual activity, sexual intimacy is a normal and healthy part of a loving relationship.

Fortunately, women are now able to receive their fair share of sexual enhancement and women are now realizing their own sexuality. This is a beautiful and liberating gift that women can now give to themselves. Sexual activity is not an issue to be taken lightly. The lack of sexual activity in a serious, long term, committed relationship shouldn’t be taken lightly either. Seeking out assistance for female libido issues is now finally not only easy, but acceptable.

Women have been slowly but surely led toward sexual liberation since the early seventies. While the road to complete liberation for women is still long, female libido enhancement is actually an important step in that direction.

For some reason, men are hell bent on getting as deep into a woman’s vagina as possible. They think that there is more pleasure way in the back of the vagina than in the front. Well, there isn’t, all the pleasure occurs in the first few inches of the vaginal walls and the clitoris. To really make a woman think you are a sexual god you must send these first few inches into ecstasy. There are several ways to do this with your hands, penis, and tongue.

Some women really enjoy having fingers inserted into the first few inches of their vagina while having sexual intercourse. The boring, stiff penis can sometimes not supply enough adequate stimulation to the vaginal walls all alone. So, some expert lovers know that if they include a finger in the act that they can give their woman the most explosive orgasms she has ever experienced. Pick a spot and gently massage until you get a positive reaction from your lover. Trust me when I say that you will give her levels of pleasure that she has never felt before with finger stimulation.

When you are performing oral sex, one way to give as much as you can, is to focus on the walls of the vagina with your tongue and stop focus on the center. Using fingers as well during oral sex can drive your woman up a wall. Take your middle finger and massage in the dead center of the bottom most region.

Pretty much all men out there are constantly looking for ways in they can improve their sexual prowess and please their lover. That is why in this article I am going to be telling you some excellent tips so that you and your lover can have a much better sex life and you make her orgasm every single time!

1) Foreplay is an absolute must - You need to have lots of foreplay every time you have sex, without foreplay your lover is unlikely to have any sort of orgasm because women take a much longer time to orgasm than it does for men.

2) Try not to be drunk - Drinking alcohol reduces motor skills and reaction time, yes we have all seen the adverts, and this is very bad if you hope to be on your ‘A’ game and make her climax. Also alcohol consumption can be directly responsible for erection problems during sex, so stay clear of the alcohol if you are planning on having sex.

3) Make sure you are clean - Women do not like touching or being with a man who smells bad as it creates a lasting feeling about their hygiene. So if you are sweaty or otherwise dirty make sure you shower prior to having sex with your lover.

4) Compliment Her A Lot - Make sure she is in the mood for having sex by complimenting her. Complimenting her will give her a great self-esteem boost and make sure that she is feeling good enough to orgasm!

5) Change Positions Regularly - It is good to change positions regularly during sex as it spices things up a lot and makes her orgasm faster!

Listen, dude - I know you must be thinking sex is sex, right? Wrong.

Most girls know the difference between boring, good and great sex, so you should too. In fact, it’s almost a given that you should know what exactly you need to do to make a woman fall deeper in love with you through love making. If not, there are a lot of horrible things that could happen.

Firstly, an unsatisfied woman can easily fall prey to other men’s wiles. Secondly, a woman who can’t feel emotional during sex would crave for that kind of connection that she often reads about in her romance novels. So take my advice and learn the skills you need to make yourself the only guy in her life. With great love making skills, making yourself unforgettable to a woman is fairly easy…

Three Volcanic Ways To Make A Girl Explode With Orgasmic Pleasure

#1: Make her relax. Women who have a lot of stuff in their minds won’t feel pleasure regardless of what you do or how skilled you think you are. Considering this, you have to extend your comfort building game up until the lovemaking phase of your relationship if you want to really hook the girl into staying with for a long time. It is a little known fact that women will NOT be able to orgasm if they’re not comfortable. Put her at ease by speaking soothing words and touching her tenderly.

#2: “Your Lips on Her Hot Spot”. Kissing her on her sensitive areas will definitely increase the likelihood of a fast orgasm. Suppress your own desires for a moment and just concentrate on kissing her on her most sensitive places. If you can do this every time you make love, you will make her feel that you care about her pleasure more than yours, and that’s always a turn on.

#3: Emotional Lovemaking. For most women, sex is an intensely emotional affair so you have to make sure you can touch her emotionally and mentally during sex. Tell her she’s beautiful, and show that you’re deriving pleasure just by looking and touching her to make her feel like a diva. If you make her emotionally “invested” in you through sex, you will bring her to climax many times over.