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When it comes to adding new sex positions into a lovemaking session, it is crucial that you also keep practicality in mind. Yes, I agree that there is nothing wrong with adding a few positions just for the sake of making sex exciting. This is just as important as practicality. However, you should still keep in mind that certain positions are crucial in dictating whether a woman achieves an orgasm or not.

When looking for a good sex position to help your woman achieve powerful orgasms, you have to keep the following in mind;

The position should allow both parties to move an angle themselves freely. It should also allow both parties to be comfortable and relaxed. More importantly, there should be a feeling of intimacy and connection. By keeping this in mind, you will be able to experience wonderful sensations when having intercourse with your partner, and it will allow your woman to find the right way to achieve explicit orgasms every time.

You can understand why the missionary position is such a popular choice. Though most people might think it is boring, you’ll find that this position allows both you and your woman to truly form an intimate connection while at the same time being relaxed, comfortable, as well as having the ability to position yourselfs so that you are able to hit all the right spots in the vaginal canal.

For the woman, it allows her to lie back and just relax while at the same time being able to have eye contact with her man. This allows her to feel intimately connected to him. She can use her hands to explore his body while he thrusts into her. She also has enough freedom of movement in the pelvis to change the angle of his thrusts so that she can be better stimulated.

For the man, it allows him to easily angle his thrusts, as well as the depths of the thrusts during intercourse, while at the same time feeling connected to his woman through eye contact. By easily being able to adjust the angles of thrusting, he is able to better stimulate the right spots in the vaginal canal.

So as you can see, as boring as the missionary position might be, it has a lot more to offer than meets the eye. No wonder this is one of the positions that most women prefer over all other positions.

C’mon, does size REALLY matter? As the owner of a site that’s been helping men solve their erection problems since 2004, I’m always surprised at the emails I get on a daily basis from men of all age, races and sexual persuasions.

I’ve also been writing and publishing articles to do with erection problems and sexual dysfunction in general and also get lots of feedback and questions based on those articles. So what does “size” have to do with erection problems you say?

A LOT! First off, the quality of erection has everything to do with how “big” you are. Typically the size of your erection determines the size of your “member” … when and where it counts … i.e. in the bedroom! (or wherever else you find yourself doing it)

Now I know you’ve seen the surveys that women supposedly take about how important “size” is to them. Now depending on who is publishing those surveys you will hear that “size” DOES matter (these are the penile enhancement people) to the majority of women … or in other surveys that it does NOT! (from the “regular” surveys.)

So if you are less than “well endowed”, who are you to believe?

Well, lets get some things straight. There is absolutely no disputing the FACT that women place confidence higher as an attractive attribute than the size of a man’s “member!” In other words you can have the biggest “Johnson” around but if you don’t have confidence and self esteem you’ll do much worse with the ladies than the fella who has a little to average “Johnson” but big self esteem and self confidence … any day of the week.

Secondly, any woman will tell you that they get more pleasure from a hard “average” or even “small” member over a soft or even semi soft LARGE one, any day!

In any event, it does help to have your erection ability up to snuff. Make sure that you get the best possible erections because THAT’S what really matters. For the guys who get the greatest erections but still can’t get over the size thing, there are some things out there that will actually help to get you bigger, but that’s a whole ‘nother subject!

Bottom line? Size DOES matter. However it’s the size of your self esteem (and thus your confidence) that we’re talking about here!

To your health!

HOW CAN I GET MY SEXUAL DESIRE BACK?

This is an extremely common question. Just because you have lost interest in sex, this does not mean that you are a sexual failure and no longer worthy of seeing yourself or being seen as a sexual being, although it may feel that way to you. Your desire and sexuality are still a part of you even if you can’t/don’t want to express them at the moment. Below are some of the reasons people lose their desire and some suggestions as to how to awaken your desire and welcome it back into your life. Needless to say the solutions are far easier to implement and change is more likely to be sustained when working with a coach!

Are you having sex to please your sexual partner? If you find it hard to day NO to someone and find that you have sex only when someone else suggests it, it is not surprising that you have lost touch with your own sexuality. I have worked with a number of clients who rarely experienced desire because they had got into a habit of responding to other people’s desire rather than acknowledging their own. If you cannot say NO, each YES means very little and your desire will diminish.

Solutions: work on identifying your sexual style and preferences, your peak sexual experiences, what makes it hard for you to be the one who initiates sex, dealing with rejection, becoming more assertive, relate your sexual hesitancy to other areas of your life, communication skills.

Do you find that you feel desire for other people but are no longer attracted to your partner? Sometimes I work with people who have totally gone off the idea of sex. Sometimes I work with people who are turned off from sex with their partner whilst they are nursing and cultivating intense desire for someone else. In this situation, the primary relationship will undoubtedly suffer as your focus will be on your desire being thwarted and resentment and anger are likely consequences.

Solutions: ask yourself what is it about this new person that so excites you? What will you get with them that you do not have with your current partner? What were things like at the beginning with your current partner? This situation is more about finding creative solutions to make our current relationship more interesting and how to stop taking your partner for granted. A new relationship is not going to solve this type of loss of desire scenario. It merely suspends it for a while. Try looking at what could be changed and improved in your relationship and take responsibility for making that happen.

Have you been single for so long that you can’t remember what desire feels like? I bet you can - if you want to. It is easy to get used to any routine, however dissatisfying and spending a long time as a single person can feel too safe. Dating feels scary and makes you feel vulnerable.When I am working with single people, I hear the same kinds of problems cropping up. Feeling that you are not sexy if you aren’t having sex, wondering why you never meet the ‘right’ sort of person, complaining about there being no good men/women out there, how to merge your single self with the life of another person. Solutions:Become the person you want to attract, work on making your life as great as it can be without a partner. confidence and self-esteem building, getting in touch with your passion and purpose, identifying patterns from previous relationships, what was good in the past that you want with a new partner, what are the people/situations that you do not want in your life, masturbate and become a more sexual person. You need to know that you do not need a partner in order to be the best kind of partner.

How do you feel about the sex that you do have with a partner? Are you getting the sexual stimulation that you need? I have worked with couples who see loss of desire as a problem that belongs to one of them, whilst the other one is an innocent victim of an unfortunate sexual drought.This premise is swiftly explored and both parties begin to recognise that sexual issues involve both partners and that apportioning blame is counterproductive and unhelpful.

Solutions : work on sharing sexual fantasies, communication, exploration (trying new things), sexual games. Perhaps the most important exercise in this situation is enabling both parties to sit down and talk about what most turns them on - do they want more foreplay, different type (less/more rough) of stimulation. Does the sex end too soon? This is not a problem when sex only ends when both are fulfilled (and that may or may not involve orgasm)

How would you describe your relationship? It will not surprise you to know that sex is one of the first things to lose its appeal when a relationship is in difficulties. This is not necessarily a cause and effect situation as many factors contribute to relationship breakdown.

Solutions - look at your environment. What is going on in your life to make it hard to prioritise sex and connection with your partner? Usually it is necessary to make a detailed inventory of contributory factors and then work through each finding ways to make changes. Often childcare, finances, trust, conflict (each needing to be right) and fatigue interfere with contentment. How you think your partner treats you and what you can do to make this better. Look to yourself : are you seeing yourself as the mistreated victim? This will help no-one so get in touch with your personal inner power. Look at the emotions that you are partner create and explore ways of creating a bigger and better emotional connection between you.

How do you feel about yourself? The one person you have control over when trying to make changes is yourself. Often problems develop in relationships when we blame the other person for our own unhappiness.Solutions - Find your passion and purpose. Work on self-esteem, confidence and body image. When was the last time you thought about what success means to you? Where is your life going and how do you feel about that? Do you have direction, purpose and optimism for the future? If you feel small, scared, unsuccessful, unattractive how can you be in touch with sexual joy?

Maybe some of the solutions seem out of reach? This is because you may not know that you already know how to change your life. Coaching will help you to work through your own unique constellation of anxieties, sadness, blame, anger and fears. A coach enables you to find your powerful, calm centre where you are at peace with yourself and your sexuality. When you lose desire, I have found that there is more at stake here than sexual boredom. Boredom is something that can be addressed with tips and technique. Loss of desire is something else and a sign that you need to look to yourself, your partner and the rest of your life for answers.

You want your girl to enjoy sex to the maximum so that she continues to desire sex with you alone. For this you will need to make sex extremely pleasurable to ensure that she craves you every time.

Sex is not all about sex alone! It is about building up the atmosphere to the level that one is aroused to desire sex immensely at that point of time. You need to go about it all in a systematic way.

1. Create the perfect atmosphere cohesive to desiring sex. The place should be tidy and clean and welcome. The lighting should be dim and if music is possible then put on something romantic.

2. Appreciate and compliment your girl to make her feel very special. Tell her that you desire her very much. She should feel great and good about herself.

3. While you appreciate her whisper some sweet nothings into her ears. Snuggle your face into her neck, nibble at her ear lobes and kiss her on the lips. Gently but surely you will help arouse her.

4. Now get started on the foreplay by caressing her breasts and titillating her nipples. Gently massage her thighs and run your fingers on her back. Touch almost all parts of her body to give her the tingly sensation to arouse her.

5. Stimulate her clitoris too. Use finger and tongue alternately to keep the desire at a height. Do not allow her to cool off by making one kind of movement for too long. This will put her off right away.

6. Probe her vagina to locate her g spot. Use the penis too to alternate with the finger. However, it is the finger alone that will help you locate this special spot. Stimulate the g spot and the clitoris.

7. As she continues to orgasm and when you sense her desiring you within her, then use your penis to complete the climax together.

This will help her climax and orgasm as much as she wants and so make sex extremely pleasurable.

Are you sometimes frustrated during lovemaking that you cannot bring her to climax and you feel inadequate and unfulfilled after the sexual intercourse? Or do you feel that your woman is faking her orgasm and trying not to hurt you? Giving a woman an orgasm could be really frustrating if you are clueless and unskilled on how to satisfy women in bed.

Men sometimes have anxiety and feel intimidated when the subject is about female orgasm because most men are aware that it takes longer for a woman to reach orgasm and there are reports that most women do not experience orgasm with their partners. You need to exert more effort and know the right skills to bring her to climax and make sex an enjoyable activity for you and your partner.

The way women process desire and lust is very much different than men. You may get hard and ready to ejaculate anytime just with a sight of a sexy porn star. But women need different stimulation and it takes more than visual stimulation to give her climax and orgasm. But once you found the techniques, women are capable of multiple orgasms making sex exciting and enjoyable for both of you.

To bring her to climax here are some tips for you.

Engage her mind. Most women always have a lot going on their minds even when they are already in the act of lovemaking. Problems, stress, worries and anxiety are some of the things occupying her mind and preventing her to enjoy the act of lovemaking. You have to do something to make her relax and at ease. If she feels good, relax and at ease, it is easier to engage her mind and imagination to bring her to climax later on.

Stimulate her desire. Get her into the mood for sex. Make her feel sexy, desirable and adorable. Tell her that you want to be with her and you want to bring her to climax with you. If she feels loved and adored, you will fire up her desire to have an intimate lovemaking with you.

Make her ready. She is now at ease and in the mood for sex. Now get her ready and bring her to climax at the right time. Foreplay and oral sex will help you make her ready. Kiss, lick and touch her on her sensitive areas and put attention to her response. You will see, feel and hear if she likes what you are doing. She will ask or beg you to stop but pulling you closer to go down on her. If she is already wet and ready, this is the right time to bring her to climax and give her earth-shattering orgasm.

Since the beginning of time, sexual enhancement products are mostly focused on men’s ability to achieve strongly satisfying ejaculations. Men’s sex enhancement products come in a variety of forms, from erection pills to semen improving drugs to penile enlargement supplements and to so many other solutions. For a very long time, the focus on dealing with drugs to provide women’s sexual satisfaction had been very minimal. It was only in the past few years when female libido enhancement drugs started to surface in the market. These libido enhancement products also aim to provide what their male counterparts try to do: to enable the body reach high levels of sex drive which in turn result to high chances of sexual satisfaction. Know more about libido enhancement drugs and regard this as your ultimate guide to the achievement of incomparable orgasms.

Your ultimate guide shall begin by saying that there is a variety of reasons why women cannot reach the state of sexual excitement. It can be brought by environmental reasons, like stress from daily problems; psychological reasons, like anxiety and depression; lack of confidence in one’s sexual performance because of body problems; among many others. Sadly, it should be admitted as early as now that Female Libido Enhancement cannot resolve these problems. What Female Libido Enhancement drugs and supplements do is to intercept the normal body processes related to sex and reproduction and work on their chemicals in order to trigger the attainment of high levels of sexual yearning and sensitivity. In other words, these drugs are limited to adding or modifying natural body substances with the hope of effective physical responses. They are focused on the mechanical side of sex.

Libido Enhancement drugs and supplements work in different schemes. There are Female Libido Enhancement products that work like a Viagra. They increase the blood flow within the female genitalia and heighten its ability to feel external stimulus. In other words, when this type of Female Libido Enhancement is taken in, women will better feel the thrusts and touches brought by fondling and penetration. Your ultimate guide admits that this has a setback: the problem with these products is that they presuppose that the women-consumers really want to have sex. They do not consider those women who really don’t have the slightest energy to touch their partners.

Another type of Female Libido Enhancement is testosterone-concentrated products. They come in pills, powder, patches, lotions, and creams. Testosterone, as biochemistry reminds us, is the primary agent of sex drive. Men are more active in sex that women because men have higher levels of testosterone. Moreover, women produce high levels of estrogen, the hormone that reduce female libido. And so when these testosterone pills, powder, patches, lotions, and creams are taken in by the body, they will enable the brain to send signals to the reproductive system and create a great mood that yearns for lovemaking.

Female Libido Enhancement can create a lot of physical tendencies to a woman’s body, but it should be remembered that no amount of substance or chemical could fight psychological worries and negative emotions. The ultimate guide rule in sex is this: when women have unsettled issues with their partner, an amazing sexual experience can never be attained.

One major problem that a lot of men have when it comes to sex is consistency. This night they can make their lover achieve multiple orgasm, then tomorrow night they can’t give her any sexual climax. This can be very frustrating for a woman since she doesn’t know what to expect each time she is having sex with her lover.

So how do you remain consistently impressive in the bedroom? How do you make sure that your woman achieves 2 - 3 powerful orgasm every time you have sex? Well read on to learn how…

1. Emotional Foreplay!

Unlike us guys that can get sexually excited and in the mood for sex in a matter of micro-seconds, women need a certain amount of emotional stimulation in order to be sexually aroused and ready to achieve multiple orgasms.

It is your duty to fill your woman with the feelings of sexual anticipation, passion and aggression during sex. If you do it well, then your woman would be in the perfect state of mind to experience powerful sexual climaxes.

2. Oral Sex!

Now here is a rule you must always follow if you want your woman to see you as a sex god! Never penetrate your woman until you have given her at least 2 powerful orgasm during foreplay.

By doing this every time you have sex, you would be assured of her achieving sexual climax during penetration. This is because, the moment she achieves one powerful orgasm it increase her chances of having two or three powerful orgasm the moment you penetrate her.

Oral sex is a very easy way to give your woman sexual climax. Lick and suck gently on your woman’s vaginal lips and clitoris and you would be sure to give her 1 or 2 climaxes.

3. Make Sure You Last Long!

A lot of guys believe they are good in bed if they can give their woman one powerful orgasm. That is just a tip of the iceberg on what it takes to be a stud in bed. Women don’t just want one, they want multiple orgasms till they become tired. Most women want to be filled completely with multiple orgasms after every sex session.

When your woman achieves a sexual climax, she may want to relax a bit to catch her breath. But that does not imply that your job is over for the night. Keep giving it to her till she can’t take any more!

However there is one problem that prevents so many guys from giving their lover multiple orgasms during penetration. This is no other than the issue of a small penis. Did you know that 8 out of every 10 women prefer big penises to small or average ones? Of course this is to be expected! Big penises provide more sexual pleasure to women during sexual intercourse than small or average ones.

Are you interested in getting a bigger penis? Then the safest and most affordable option to you is by a combination of natural penis exercises and herbal penis enlargement pills. These two methods have been used by a lot of guys including me to get a bigger penis.

Are you afraid to start dirty talk in your loving relationship? Why? Talking dirty in a relationship, even a loving relationship will only spice things up. You should not be feeling shy. You love one another, your love is unconditional and that means you accept one another for who you are.

When it comes to your needs and desires, you should never be afraid to tell your partner about them. Think about it, what is the worst thing that can happen? Your partner will not be able to fulfill it. If this is the case, then you will be able to find a way to work around it so that the both of you are happy.

Ever Tried Dirty Talk Before?

If you have never tried to talk dirty with your partner before, then you may want to give them a word of warning before you just jump in on them. There are some individuals out there that are not comfortable with dirty talk and will never be. If you come out of nowhere and start talking dirty, you may end up turning your partner off and it could put a halt to your relationship. However, if you know that your partner is into talking dirty, then don’t be afraid to spring it on them.

Discuss Talking Dirty First

Before you talk dirty, you should first see if it is something for the both of you. Talk to your partner and see how they feel about it. You and your partner can come up with some rules before you jump into it. There should be no judgments between the both of you at this time. This is your time to laugh and be silly with one another.

Move Slowly

As you are talking dirty with one another, you should not jump right in and start throwing those short letter words in there and think that it is fine. There is so much more to dirty talk than just using those short four letter words. For starters, you should compliment one another, then move on to that crude language. Whatever comes to your mind at the time, just say it, it does not matter how graphical it is, as long as you are comfortable with speaking it to your partner, say it. Before you know it, you and your partner excitement will start to build up and you will want to take things faster.

Spice Up Your Life with Dirty Talk

If you are looking to spice up your love life a bit, then you should talk dirty with your partner. By talking dirty, you and your partner will stay interested and have a great sex life together. If there is something you really want, then tell your partner and go for it.

The first step to giving your lover a breast massage induced orgasm is to realize that usually you need multiple forms of touch to get her there. By this, I mean that you will need stimulation from the hands and the mouth. One or the other will work, but not as fast as the deadly combination of both of them. The best technique actually involves your lover sitting on top of you and hanging her breasts over your face. The hanging floods the breast tissue with fresh blood and intensifies touch a thousand times. If she is laying on her back, there is none of this desired effect created.

Take your two hands and dedicate each one to a breasts. Cup gentle around the side of the breast, and do not palm the front of the nipple. You need to leave this area exposed for your mouth. Gently rotate your hands back and forth with gentle touch, and incorporate a slight squeeze into the motion. Do not use excessive force. That will kill the sensation your are trying to produce. Lesbians often cite clunky male hands as one of the reasons, they can’t stand men. Don’t let yourself be their example.

The final moves

Your mouth must be used to complete the orgasm in the majority of cases. Get creative, however, do not use excessive force. The nipple and flesh immediately surrounding it should be lightly licked and sucked. If done right you will have elevated your sexual prowess to a level few men achieve. The orgasms produced from breast stimulation can be the most powerful you can give your lover, so don’t neglect its affect.

It’s an unfortunate reality that many women have to regularly fake their orgasms.  And it’s equally unfortunate that most men are oblivious to it because women have become really good at it! 

It’s actually quite sad when you think about it.  The reason women fake their orgasms is because they aren’t satisfied with their partner’s performance in the bedroom. 

Don’t you, as a man, think it’s about time that you do something about this?  Men need to start being able to differentiate between real and fake orgasms.  If you can recognize when she’s faking, and more importantly, why she’s faking, you can set forth a course of action to put an end to this problem before it strains your relationship.

Here are three important signals to watch for to determine whether or not your woman is faking her orgasm:

1.  Pay special attention to her energy level because a real orgasm typically wears out a woman for the next few minutes.  If she gets up from sex displaying a ton of energy, chances are she has just faked an orgasm so she can basically get the sex over and done with to move on to other things.  It should be a warning sign if she gets out of bed and starts tending to housework or the garden.  A woman would feel the need to lay back and relax, almost in a comatose near paralyzed state, after a real intense orgasm. 

2.  Monitor her level of stimulation afterwards.  A woman that has just experienced an earth shattering orgasm will have extreme sensitivity and be unable to tolerate any more stimulation.  She would need a break between sessions just like a man after sex.  A woman that acts as if nothing happened following an orgasm has most likely faked it!

3.  Ask yourself one important question following a woman’s orgasm.  Did you feel it?  You should feel a woman’s vagina contract during a real orgasm.  If you feel nothing, she is probably not actually reaching climax.

If your woman is making exaggerated noises or movements, like a real bad adult film star, it’s probably safe to assume that she’s acting and faking her orgasm.