January 31st, 2010 | 
Author: After a breakup, it’s natural to want to see your ex, and to expect to still have some influence over them. You want to find a way to keep them in your life, and keep yourself in theirs. But this is still your pre-breakup way of thinking. It’s post-breakup now, and the old way won’t work. You need to find another way to get your ex back.
Before the breakup, depending on your relationship, you could sometimes insist on an audience for your point of view. Your lover felt they owed it to you because of the relationship. But that is out of date thinking now. Your ex doesn’t feel they have that obligation any more.
On top of it being a new situation now, it’s just not going to work for you. If you force yourself on your ex, it will only make you seem pushy. Your ex will respond by pushing you away even more. That’s not what you want.
A new and better approach for you starts with more space, a surprising letter, and a cool calm attitude from you. First, you need to give your ex more space to get away from the negative emotions of the breakup. Next, you should send a short note saying you agree with the breakup and also think that more space is a good idea yourself. This is very different from what you would normally think of doing.
Finally, in this first phase of getting them back, you need to show that you are in control and not thrown off-balance by the split. This will see you off to a good start.
So be careful with that impulse to make demands. It will only get you into trouble and ensure that you fail. Be accommodating with the breakup and stay in control of yourself right now. You will thank yourself for it.
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